Have You Taken 5 Steps to Transform Yourself?

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These 5 steps to transform yourself are essential to achieve goals you never thought were possible. We have to “warm ourselves up”, so to speak, before we can really change. That’s why the order of steps is important when considering how to transform our relationship to the outer world and ourselves.

1. Observing Yourself From a Distance

Have you ever tried stepping back and looking down upon yourself interacting with someone or just understanding your current position in life? I first discovered this suggestion through a book by Emmet Fox.

Basically, your perspective is often distorted and you may need some space to grasp the reality of a situation. It’s almost the same as unloading a problem onto a friend and that friend provides you an insight because he/she is detached from the situation.

2. Let Go

Similar to stepping back and observing the self, “let go and let God” is a popular phrase in many circles. You have to develop a certain trust in the Universe that situations and your life will turn out o.k. in the end.

Often, our straining and compulsion to control our world defeats us from reaping the benefits in an orderly, spiritual universe. If you notice yourself trying to control someone or a situation, try to emotionally detach and say, “I’m letting go of this situation.” See what happens with this new practice.

3. Saying Yes to Yourself

You say yes to yourself now because you love yourself. That is the place where you can find yourself. Practice saying, “yes, this is true for me”. What is true for you? What do you really love in life? What really interests you? Accept that and run with it. Stop being afraid to accept yourself, your desires, and your loves in life.

You are attracted to certain things for a reason. God made you that way so accept it and accept yourself. Appreciate the uniqueness, which you bring to the world and utilize that uniqueness.

4. Taking Action

Nothing happens without taking action. If you have done the previous steps thoroughly, you have digested some truths about yourself and you have come to a new level of acceptance and empowerment!

When you begin to love and accept yourself on a deep level, all kinds of majestic things start happening and NOW when you start taking some action in directions that previously scared you, faith and confidence will accompany you allowing you to complete the job. In the past, you may have sabotaged yourself after taking action because deep down you didn’t believe you deserved success or positive change. That’s why the previous step of total self acceptance and letting go of negativity are powerful and create space for future transformation.

5. Your Accountability System

You must have an accountability system and that means surrounding yourself with people who stretch you and want the best for you. In addition, why not surround yourself with people who already possess the qualities you desire? How do they act? What do they read? What do they eat? Hang around them and start doing what they do…It’s true that birds of a feather flock together so become part of your flock.

Yes, a COACH is absolutely a powerful way to set up an accountability system. Here are some testimonials of clients who worked with me. It’s common sense that a good Coaching program is a way for you to check-in, discuss possibilities, and allow yourself to STRETCH beyond what you think is possible.

I can’t tell you how many people I see, including myself in the past, who never go beyond their circle of comfort. Fear prevents them from taking one courageous step and they remain mired in mediocrity the rest of their lives.

Will you be different?

Remember, to transform yourself, you must: observe yourself, let go, say yes to yourself, take action, and then lock in the transformation with an accountability system!

You take these steps in this order and you WILL transform. You now have the groundwork laid out before you…what are you going to do with it?

There is only one time. I mean really, in a scientific reality sense, there is only NOW. You can take action right now. Just take one small baby step and the dominos will begin to fall in your favor…

7 Ways to Prioritize Your Life

schedule words in collageThere simply is not enough time to get everything done. You may have been fooling yourself most of your life by pretending that it’s possible to get everything done, but we must get clear on reality.

How do you know what to prioritize when you simultaneously understand that everything will not get done? You can establish a willingness to let go of unnecessary baggage in life. Every day, successful people practice the art of letting go. This is key if you want to become efficient reaching your goals.

1. Set Your Grandest Goals

What are the main goals for your life? Would you like to have children, become a millionaire, own a business, or become a spiritual teacher? You must know your main life goals, which can take years to achieve. Once you have this, you can start taking baby steps every day towards those goals. These goals should make you feel excited when you think about them…and you SHOULD think about your goals every day. By now, you probably understand the power behind the subconscious mind and how it produces much of our reality.

2. Stop Putting Everyone Else First

If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t help others efficiently. It is not selfish to take care of yourself and love yourself. Contrarily, it’s a necessity if you want to serve others. You may need to get professional help or join a support group if you’ve been a caretaker your whole life and want to establish a new pattern of giving yourself equal care.

3. Learn to Say No

Once you’ve established your clear life goals, now you can learn to say no to everything else. Parry away those incoming distractions and regain focus on your established goals or priorities. Saying “no” is a learned skill. Also, remember it is “how” you say it, but not necessarily “what” you say. You can say “no” to family and friends in a compassionate way that allows you to maintain relationships while staying focused.

4. Find Activities to Stop

Take an inventory of your daily activities. Which ones can you “stop” because they do not align under your few established life goals? Remember, any activity that doesn’t align with your established life priorities is a distraction and should be eliminated. Beware of the wandering mind! It loves distraction.

5. Clearing Clutter

Take 5 minutes per day to walk around your home and declutter. Put things away as much as possible. A cluttered home is the manifestation of a cluttered mind. Keeping your space somewhat neat and orderly helps you stay focused on your primary goals. This is especially true if you have a desk or workspace. Try to keep that work surface clear and organized especially in the morning when you begin your work.

6. Simplify, Simplify, Simplify

Henry David Thoreau once said, “simplify, simplify, simplify” and this quote is often present inside when I’m trying to become more efficient and aligned towards my life goals. Can you simplify your email accounts? Can you digitize your paperwork? Can you cut down on the amount of furniture you own? Studies show some of the happiest people on Earth own very little material items.

7. Meditate or Spend Time in Silence

When I spend a few minutes each day in prayer and silent meditation, I finish the sessions with a vision consisting of more clarity and less anxiety. I naturally see the next step in my journey more easily. Previous to meditation, I became confused more easily and held less confidence regarding my next steps in life.

These are seven steps that should give you a beginning towards a more conscious life pregnant with your loftiest dreams and exciting steps along the way. Most people do not have clear priorities in life, which have been established after careful consideration. Journal your main goals in life. Brainstorm this subject and you will be way ahead of most people on the planet.

5 Games That We Play With Ourselves

board game with piecesHave you ever thought that maybe you are exactly where you really want to be? You might say that’s crazy and you’re in fact a victim of the people around you, of circumstances, or some other outer influence.

You are always winning the game you are playing. So what is your game? That’s the question. Does your game involve being subservient to poverty? Are you a victim of current affairs or politicians who “don’t care about you”?

These are some questions to answer with as much honesty as you can muster. We are working perfectly to produce the results we are getting. Garbage in, garbage out. For every action, there is an equal reaction and so the Universe goes…

Often, we are taught from birth to play specific games of victimhood or some other entrapment. You can develop accurate skills to take personal inventory resulting in a path forward.

1. Many people value distractions and instability more than consistent meal timing, which brings physical calm and stability. You would rather live in controlled chaos and eat whenever it’s convenient while lying to yourself and claiming it doesn’t matter when you eat your meals.

2. “I don’t deserve to eat” is another little game we can play with ourselves. When this game is played, we eat with anxiety. This could be an unconscious decision that’s why personal inventory and honesty is so important when we investigate ourselves and look in the mirror of Truth.

3. We play a game when it comes to our relationship with time. “I am so busy and there is never enough time”. What if we reversed this game and said, “no matter what I do, I always have enough time”. Can you imagine the difference it could make in your life? You always have enough time to prioritize the items that really matter. It may take some journaling or introspection to discover those few things that really matter.

4. Are you constantly trying to fulfill the priorities of other people? What if you played a new game that consisted of you listing your own priorities and making time on your calendar each day to fulfill some of those priorities? How would that feel? Do you even know what your priorities are….or have you been running around pleasing others your whole life? Change the game starting now!

5. Another game is eating when you are already full. Are you playing a game of ignoring your body when it is telling you that it’s full or it doesn’t like certain foods? How is your stomach reacting? Can you listen to your body and honor yourself? A new game would be the arising of awareness and responding lovingly to your body’s signals. Paying attention to my needs and myself can become a new game.

Many souls live an entire life while not understanding the game can be changed. We can choose to play another game and correspondingly chart another path. There are limitless games to play and sometimes books or other people might give us ideas of possible, alternative games to play.

First, we have to discover the games we are playing with ourselves. Remember, it’s always a game we play with oneself and not someone else. You may be deluded into believing the game is being played upon you or you’re a member in a two-person dance, but you’re the originator and the receptor.

This concept buoys the soul when understood completely because it means we are truly in charge of our destiny and can chart any path in life.

What is your chart or what is the game you can start playing today? Using the word ‘game’ as a metaphor can help us engage the process with a joyous expectation. Lets make life-changing movements while having fun. Lets make it a game and notice how well we are playing.

In addition, a game can be held as something that requires practice to master. Are there certain things I can do to practice playing the game of life better?